Showing posts with label sisters. Show all posts
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Thursday, November 30, 2017

It Runs in the Family

My New Grandson

My new grandson looks just like Winston Churchill. Okay, not anymore. But just after his delivery, Jackson was a carbon baby copy of ol’ Winnie. Round face. Chubby cheeks. Button nose. Puffy eyes. The only things missing were the hat and cigar.

Over the past seven months, he’s thankfully taken on a strong resemblance to several members of his family. People see his mom’s eyes. Other folks make out his dad’s smile. Some even say Jackson has his grandpa’s dazzling personality. But is that REALLY my place to say?

Some families have strong physical traits that run powerfully through their descendants. You know what I’m talking about. There’s the legendary Kennedy chin. Will and Jada Pinkett Smith have apparently cloned themselves in their children. And the Kardashians are famous for their…well, um…fame.

Jesus’ Closest Relatives

Did you know there was a day when Jesus talked about His family resemblance? Mark writes all about the day our Savior was hanging out with a bunch of His followers when His mother and brothers show up to see Him (Mk 3:31-34).

When Christ gets word they are outside, He suddenly drops a bomb on His nuclear family in front of the crowd. He says His closest relatives include a lot more people than just His human parents and siblings.

It Runs in the Family

Jesus says they all share a strong family resemblance. What could it be? Full head of hair? Strong nose? The ability to water ski without a boat? Possibly.

But there’s one distinguishing trait that makes Jesus’ true family members unmistakeable. His true mom, His real brothers and sisters are the folks who love to obey their heavenly Dad.

In other words, obedience to God’s will runs in the family.

Rocky’s Story

We find Christ’s description of His spiritual next of kin in the third chapter of an ancient document we call the Gospel of Mark. This is actually the personal account of Jesus’ life from Peter’s perspective, the man our Savior chose to lead His team.

Many of the Lord’s followers back in the early church were totally convinced Pete is the source. The apostle Jesus nicknames Rocky shares the Son of God’s story with his young friend John Mark. That’s how we came to know it as the Book of Mark.

Insane or in Satan?

The scene Mark describes here is, shall we say, “messy.” For those of you who think the Bible is a collection of well-edited and whitewashed stories that make everybody look like squeaky clean, think again.

Mark has already told us that Jesus’ closest family members have shown up outside the crowded house for an intervention (Mk 3:20-21). It’s time to take their big Brother home. They’re convinced He’s not so much the Christ but cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. Don’t believe me? Read it for yourself.

While they wait outside, Jesus has an interesting little debate with a team of religious muckety-mucks from the home office in Jerusalem (Mk 3:22-30). They don’t think Christ is cray-cray but instead accuse Him of collaborating with the enemy. And when I say “enemy,” they mean Satan.

Mary Calls a Family Meeting

Once Jesus sets the scribes straight, it’s time to deal with His family. “Then Jesus’ mother and brothers came to see Him. They stood outside and sent word for Him to come out and talk with them. There was a crowd sitting around Jesus, and someone said, ‘Your mother and your brothers are outside asking for You’” (v31-32).

Mary and her boys don’t come inside. Maybe it’s too crowded. Maybe they don’t want to embarrass Jesus in front of His closest friends and followers. For whatever reason, send Him an invitation to chat in the front yard.

His Brothers Don’t Believe Him

Mark has already made it uncomfortably clear how they’re questioning the Messiah’s mental health. His closest family members have serious doubts about all His talk of the kingdom of God. At this point, His own brothers don’t believe Jesus (Jn 7:5). They even openly tease Him (Jn 7:3).

Okay, so Christ’s kid brothers aren’t buying what He’s selling. Is that such a surprise? What would it take for your siblings to believe you’re God? How about walking out of the cemetery after your own burial? That certainly did the trick for Jesus’ brothers.

A Teenage Pregnancy

And what about Mary? You remember her story, don’t you? She gets a surprise visit from an angel named Gabriel who tells her how her teenage pregnancy will result in the Son of God (Lk 1:26-38).

The next thing you know she and her hammer-swinging husband Joe on the road to Bethlehem where they turn a barn into a birthing room (Lk 2:1-7). They get a visit from some smelly shepherds who tell a crazy story about an angelic light show announcing news about their newborn Son (Lk 2:8-20).

Mary’s Treasured Memories

Eight days later, the happy couple take their brand new Baby to the temple in Jerusalem for His bris, that rather delicate surgery done on little Jewish boys (2:21-38). There they meet Simeon and Anna who understand this Child is the one God has been promising to send for thousands of years.

While Mary certainly treasures these moments forever (Lk 2:19, 51), she apparently can’t wrap her maternal brain around all of who Jesus is and what He’s sent to do. And seriously, who can blame her? Do you know any other mother who’s given birth to the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, and the Second Person of the Trinity? Yeah, I didn’t think so.

An Amber Alert for God’s Son

Probably the best example of her misunderstanding her Son happens when Jesus is twelve. When Joe and Mary pack up the fam and head home from Passover, they don’t notice that their oldest Boy isn’t with them until they stop the next night (Lk 2:41-51).

His human parents hustle back to Jerusalem and look for Him everywhere for three days. Imagine hearing of an Amber Alert for the Savior of the world? Eventually they find twelve-year-old Jesus in the middle of a Q-and-A with the greatest Jewish scholars of the day.

Joe and Mary tell Him they’ve been worried sick. Their Son wonders why they didn’t come straight to the temple or in His words, “My Father’s house” (Lk 2:49). That went right over their heads. “They didn’t understand what he meant” (Lk 2:50).

A Crowded House in Capernaum

Fast forward twenty years later to the scene at the crowded house in Capernaum. Has Mary somehow forgotten all these amazing memories? No, but maybe doubt and time began to corrode her trust in God since then.

Don’t think that’s possible? Pretty sure that could ever happen to you? Ever hear the story about God miraculously leading the Israelites out of Egypt with a fiery funnel cloud while splitting apart the Red Sea for a shortcut?

Frosted Flakes and Doubting Thomas

No way they could ever doubt God after that, right? Wrong. It wasn’t long after that God’s chosen people were whining about the free Frosted Flakes He served them every morning (Num 11:6).

Then there’s our old buddy the Apostle Thomas. Here’s a dude who has a front row seat to watch the Son of God perform one miracle after another for three years. Yet Tommy Boy has serious doubts about his friends’ bizarre story of Jesus’ resurrection when he’s not there to see it for himself (Jn 20:25).

Jesus’ Mom Needs a Savior

Maybe you come out of a faith tradition that puts Mary on a pedestal as the perfect mom. She never doubts or questions her oldest Son. But the truth is that Jesus’ own momma was very human. She needed a Savior just like the rest of us (Lk 1:47; Rom 3:23; 6:23).

When it comes to her faith, I’m guessing she’s a lot like you and me. She had her good days. She had her bad days. There were times when her trust in what God was doing through her family ran deep. Other times not so much. This appears to be one of those days of doubt.

When Your Faith Wobbles Wildly

Do you freak out when your faith wobbles wildly? Hey, I’m not afraid to admit it. But the most important thing about your faith is the object of our faith. A weak faith in something or, in this case, Someone strong makes all the difference.

A strong faith in a weak object is a total waste of time. For instance, I might believe with every fiber of my being that I can dunk in my Nike LeBrons.

The Ultimate Object

There’s just one little problem. Me. I’m 5’ 10” and could barely touch the rim when I was in high school. Forty years later, my hops have not improved. No matter what I believe about a pair of high dollar kicks, they won’t do the trick.

But trusting in Jesus is always a sure thing. It’s why Paul tells his friend Timothy, “If we are unfaithful, He remains faithful” (2Tim 2:13). Whenever we place our weak faith in the ultimate Object, it’s a slam dunk!

Jesus’ Family Tree

Back inside the house, Christ doesn’t get up and go outside to talk to His family. Instead He asks the standing room only crowd a couple of questions. “Jesus replied, ‘Who is My mother? Who are My brothers?’” (v33).

One of the favorite pastimes in Galilee is taking a chainsaw to Jesus’ family tree. He didn’t exactly come from the good side of the tracks. It’s an easy target. Even Nathanael, one of His own disciples questions, “Can anything good come from Nazareth?” (Jn 1:46).

Critics in His own hometown love to bring up Jesus’ blue-collar background and trailer park tribe. “He’s just a carpenter, the son of Mary and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas, and Simon. And His sisters live right here among us” (Mk 6:3).

A Strong Resemblance

If I’m in the room, my answer to Jesus’ question about the identity of His family would be those folks outside. But Jesus’ isn’t looking to see who might have His family roster memorized. In reality, Christ wants to know what marks somebody as one of His close family members. Who shares a strong family resemblance?

Before anybody in the house can answer, the Lord fills in the blank for them. “Then He looked at those around Him and said, ‘Look, these are My mother and brothers’” (v34). Matthew tells us that Jesus points to His dozen disciples when He says this (Mt 12:49).

Jesus Connects the Dots

The Message makes it clear. “Right here, right in front of you—My mother and My brothers” (v34 The Message). You gotta figure folks are scratching their heads when He says this. Mother? Brothers? WHAT?!? I thought Your fam is in the front yard? These knuckleheads don’t look anything like You!

That’s when Jesus connects all the dots. “Anyone who does God’s will is My brother and sister and mother” (v35). In his version of this very same story, Dr. Luke quotes Christ as saying that His closest family members “are those who hear God’s Word and obey it” (Lk 8:21).

Notice that obeying the will of God means not just hearing it but doing it. Our obedience to God is in the application, not just the head knowledge of what He says. According to Jesus’ kid brother, knowing what to do without actually doing it is a waste of time (James 1:22-24).

Looking Like Our Heavenly Dad

Jesus wants us to know that obedience to our Father in heaven is what gives us the unmistakable family resemblance. Forget hair color, height, or sense of humor. We suddenly look a whole lot like the Son of God when we do what His Dad says.

As a matter of fact, the Lord is saying that the ties to our spiritual family are WAY stronger than to our blood relatives. That’s certainly great news for anyone who’s human family puts the funk in dysfunction. In case you’re wondering, that would be all of us.

The Savior’s Spiritual Family

The writer of Hebrews talks about our Savior’s amazing spiritual family. “So now Jesus and the ones He makes holy have the same Father. That is why Jesus is not ashamed to call them His brothers and sisters” (Heb 2:11).

A guy named Paul backs that up in a letter to believers in Rome. He says that God the Father personally selects His kids in advance to become like His Son. And that Jesus is “the firstborn among many brothers and sisters” (Rom 8:29).

Our Ultimate Big Brother

If we’ve placed our trust in Christ, He’s our Big Brother. Not only that but our Dad is making us look more and more like our oldest Brother every single day. Let that sink in. We participate in that process every time we do what God says.

Jesus tells the packed house that doing what God wants is what really makes His followers favor the family. That means there’s nothing that we can do to resemble our Big Brother and Heavenly Dad more than willing submission and obedience.

Loaded with Laws

Just what does that mean? Have you seen the Bible? It’s loaded with laws and commands. Jewish scholars have counted 613 commandments in the OT. According to some, the NT has another 1,015 rules and regulations.

If that’s not intimidating enough, Jesus’ little brother James goes so far as to say that if we break one law, we’ve broken all of them (James 2:10). I don’t know about you, but I won’t make past breakfast.

The Top of the To-Do List

That’s what makes the Good News such great news. “This is the only work God wants from you: Believe in the One He has sent” (Jn 6:28-29). At the top of our Heavenly Dad’s to-do list for us is this: Place our trust in His Son.

Jesus is the only one who’s ever lived to have a perfect record of obedience to His Father’s rules. He batted 1.000. Got ‘em all right. Every single do and do not. Christ did for us what we could never do for ourselves.

Jesus’ Perfect Obedience

Our Savior invites us to place our trust in His perfect obedience. He lived the perfect life that we’ve failed to live. He died the death for our sin and rebellion that we should have died. And if that’s not enough, He rose to a glorious new life that we don’t deserve.

Trusting in Jesus also means following His leadership. We unlock that overflowing life He made available (Jn 10:10) by doing what He says. Guess what? The more we do, the stronger our family resemblance to our Big Brother and Heavenly Dad.

Love God and Love People

A couple of different times, folks approach the radical Rabbi/Carpenter and ask Him to what obedience to God looks like. The Lord responds by summing up God’s law in two simple commands: Love God and love people (Mt 22:37-39; Mk 12:30-32). Notice I said “simple” and not “easy.”

Just before He heads home to heaven, Jesus doubles down on the command to love. “Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are My disciples” (Jn 13:34-35).

Did you catch the way we are to love? “Just as I have loved you.” Our Savior loved us by serving us (Mt 20:28; Mk 10:45). Paul tells his Philippian friends how the King of Kings left the heavenly throne room to became a slave in order rescue you and me (Phil 2:6-8).

To Love Is to Serve

God calls me to love others by serving others. That means putting their needs ahead of mine. It means forgiving them since God has already forgiven me of SO much. Showing them the same kind of amazing grace God’s shown me. Hey, it runs in the family.

It also includes sharing the incredible message of our awesome Big Brother with others. Remember, nobody’s good enough to get into God’s family on their own. We all need a Savior. God the Father is always looking to adopt new kids to reshape into the image of His Son!

It Runs in the Family

Meanwhile back in the Galilean living room, imagine the reaction to what Jesus has just said. The Lord has just given everyone there a sneak preview of His Dad’s soon-to-be growing family.

Jesus’ closest kin is not limited just to blood relatives. It will include those who do what His Father wants. You see, obedience to God’s will runs in the family.

©2017
Jay Jennings

Sunday, January 24, 2016

One Size Does NOT Fit All

“Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity” (1Tim 5:1-2).

Back in the sixties, cities across America thought they were smart to build multipurpose stadiums. They could use these modern coliseums for football one day, baseball the next, and a concert the day after. One size fits all. There was just one little problem. These joints were just terrible places for any sport. Multipurpose stadiums turned out to no purpose stadiums. One size does NOT fit all.

In a letter to a young pastor and protege, Paul encourages Timothy not to take a one-size-fits-all approach in dealing with folks in his congregation. “Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity” (v1-2). Because the church is made up of individuals, you deal with them as individuals. Because a church is a family, you treat folks like family. Age appropriately. Gender appropriately. One size does NOT fit all.

The apostle has spent a lot of time talking to Tim about cleaning up the mess made by a bunch of spiritual snake oil salesmen (1Tim 1:3-7; 4:1-3). They distracted the people from following Jesus with all sorts of mumbo jumbo that sounded religious but had nothing to do with the Gospel. Refocus the church back on Christ and His overflowing goodness (1Tim 1:12-17; 2:3-7; 4:3-4). Get folks praying again (1Tim 2:1-2). Fill the leadership vacuum with godly men and women of integrity (1Tim 3:1-13). Paul then gives Tim a series of important instructions when it comes to serving God’s people as their pastor (1Tim 3:14-4:16).

Paul shifts gears at this point in his note to Tim. He moves from church-wide warnings and instructions to dealing with individuals. Instead of heavy handed rules handed down from some corporate cookie cutter, the apostle wants the young pastor to remember that the church is a family. And not just any family, but God’s family. Want to know how to treat each other? I don’t care how your own family put the funk in dysfunction. Interact the way a healthy and loving relatives would. With love. With grace. With respect. With integrity. Age appropriately. Gender appropriately. One size does NOT fit all. 

As a rookie pastor, Tim is probably going to have a difficult time when trying to correct the older men in the church. So the apostle starts by saying, “Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father” (v1). The word behind “rebuke” is epiplesso, which literally means to strike sharply upon or beat on something in order to change it’s shape. Picture a blacksmith pounding on metal with his hammer. 

Here Paul uses it for strongly reprimanding or beating up someone with sharp words. Some translations add “sharply” (NASB, AMP) or “harshly” (NIV, NRS, NLT). That’s exactly how you are NOT supposed to interact with older men in your church. Someone in leadership may need to correct them, but be very careful in how you do it. Don’t try to beat them into submission just because you’re in charge. You may be in a position of leadership or authority, but that doesn’t give you the right to be a human bulldozer. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. 

What an important reminder this is of the power of our words. That little ditty from the playground is a lie. “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” What a crock! Words hurt. They cut and cut deeply. We should all remember the damage we can do with what we say. 

Instead of hammering away in harshness on an older man in the church, Tim is to “encourage him as you would a father” (v1). Paul uses one of my all-time favorite Greek words here: parakaleo. It’s a compound word that can be used in a wide variety of incredibly positive ways. It literally means to call someone to your side or to speak while walking alongside someone. In various places, authors of the NT use it to cheer, urge, implore, ask, request, and invite. 

Parakaleo is from the same root word describing the Holy Spirit as our Comforter and Counselor, Parakletos, (Jn 14:16, 26; 15:26; 16:7). Just as the Spirit wants God’s best for you and me, a pastor encourages senior saints in the congregation. This is the idea of relationship, friendship, and longterm investment. Not a drive-by rebuke. 

Similarly in verse 2, Paul tells Timothy to treat “older women as mothers” (v2). Some spoiled teenage brat may bark back on their mom on the Dr. Phil show, but that’s not the way a child of God is to treat the woman who raise them. Tim had godly women in his life growing up, his grandmother Lois and mom Eunice (2Tim 1:5). No doubt the apostle is reminding his sidekick to interact with the more mature women in the Ephesian church in much the same way as he did with his mom and memaw. This is Paul’s way of saying, “Word to your mother.”

The big principle here is to treat the senior saints in your church the same way you would treat your parents. Just in case you forgot how that’s supposed to go down, God included the parent/child relationship back in His original Top Ten. “Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you” (Ex 20:12). Respect the older men and women in the congregation the same way God commands us to respect our parents. Give them the honor they deserve. 

Now this doesn’t mean you do everything they tell you. But it does mean we dismiss them out of hand as being old fogies and totally out of touch. They have a huge advantage when it comes to experience. They’re not chronologically challenged. Let’s be honest, balancing the wants and needs of a congregation with a broad range of ages isn’t easy. Don’t just blow off comments from the older members of the congregation. Certainly don’t tell them that if the music’s too loud, they’re too old. You might be surprised how they’ll respond when you cast vision for why your church does things a certain way.

Back in verse 1, Paul instructs Tim to treat “younger men as brothers” (v1). Again, don’t throw your weight around just because you have a plaque on your door or a title on your business card. The last thing you need to do as a pastor is cut yourself off from your friends and set up your office in the ivory tower. Remember you still need Jesus just as much as anybody else your age. Some of us might like the idea of dealing with the younger dudes like our brothers. You have childhood memories of noogies and wedgies. Yeah, that’s NOT what Paul’s talking about. You need their prayers and support, ESPECIALLY if you’re in leadership.

Finally, those in authority must interact with “younger women as sisters, in all purity” (v2). Don’t miss those three words at the end. “In all purity.” The Greek word here is agneia, which means a whole lot more than wearing a clean shirt and socks. This term carries strong sexual overtones. It can mean virginity or chastity. Paul’s talking about complete and total sexual propriety when a leader is around younger women. 

You absolutely have to be above and beyond reproach when it comes to your interactions with young ladies. Robertson is right. Nothing will disqualify a young pastor more quickly than his conduct with young women! Don’t give even a hint of moral misconduct. A member of the opposite sex in your church is NOT your target. Stop it. She’s your sister. Treat her with respect and honor.

Eventually cities tore down most of the multipurpose stadiums when they realized one facility couldn't serve every sport. Football, baseball, and entertainment all have unique requirements. One size does NOT fit all. In the same way, we shouldn’t treat everybody the same way. We treat them as individual believers. We deal with each person age and gender appropriately. I don’t treat my dad like my kid brother or my mom like my big sister. Remember, our church is our family. One size does NOT fit all.